Self-Defined

May 28, 2014 at 11:02 pm · Filed under Uncategorized and tagged: body, change, connection, ego, identity, introspection, living cells, personal growth, reconnection, relationships

Who are you? You think you know. But you really are changing every second- even in the physical sense. Knowing this makes it that much more incredible that we successfully maintain certain friendships, marriages and family ties throughout entire lifetimes. It is encouraging, when you embrace this. It makes change a little less scary when you face the fact that even your body is going through these kind of drastic changes without an inkling of your awareness. Kind of like standing up straight on the Earth as it spins furiously on its axis around the sun. Your attempts at reinvention can reach Lady Gaga status with this sort of understanding and consciousness of your inherent makeup.

I went to one of my favorite outdoor bars recently with some friends, and was distressed to see it had been taken over by kids who I could have literally reared if I had been a promiscuous 12 year-old. You do the math. I had about five minutes of patience for small talk (I know, I know, you’re at a bar – Lighten up, Confucius). Lately, a quote from an old Incubus song sums up this sudden intolerance succinctly and is what I’m looking for when I go out to crowded places: “Can you show me, Dear, something I’ve not seen? Something infinitely interesting?” FYI – a little mental stimulation, and playful wit go a long way, all you single men.

As we continue to grow and mature through life, we seek deeper connections, and we realize that even in long-term relationships we have to keep digging deeper to reconnect with one another as we grow and evolve. It kind of feels good to know that I’ve arrived to this place of settledness. It’s taken a bit longer for me to get here than many women I know, but I always did have a case of the old Aquarius wanderlust. Next time you think, “I can’t do that” or “that’s just not me,” remember that you are changing every second. If you choose to go along with it – instead of fighting it like salmon swimming upstream – you might just do something that changes the way you look at life and how you experience life altogether.

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