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Showing posts with label Comfortable Old Age. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Comfortable Old Age. Show all posts

Sunday, May 05, 2019

SPOUSE AFFECTS SUCCESS -- SPINNING -- EAGLETS


Big Bear Bald Eaglets Report

One eaglet appears to be a bit larger than the other (Cookie and Simba), more dominant, occasionally pecks at the smaller one that generally defers.  Both parents (Jackie and Shadow) actively feed them with initially fresh fish that then lays around unrefrigerated a day or more, also they’ve provided at least one large unlucky black feathered bird for diet variety.   I couldn’t help noticing the eaglets have an efficient powerful rapid propulsion system for excretion which seems to have been operative since birth --keeps the nest perpetually clean as they maneuver to aim their derrieres outward before firing. 

See previous April posts here for eaglets history and details.

Live 24/7 Video Cam:    https://youtu.be/5b2dUgK6VV4


Election-Barr-Mueller

Insuring 2020 Election integrity needs to be the focus of our government, but our President does not appear to be concerned about securing this basic foundation -- if his intent is to retain our democracy.    
Since when is it acceptable for a foreign government, Russia or any other one, to interfere in our elections, much less to be invited to do so under any circumstances -- to cavalierly dismiss National Security reports of such activity in deference to an offending leader's denial? 

Meanwhile.....
Is the Attorney General Barr “spinning” Mueller Report facts rather than representing the actual investigations as revealed and would be in the best interests of the American people?   

Barr’s credibility is crimped as he appears to have disregarded Mueller’s concerns.
   “The Special Counsel states that “while this report does not conclude that the President       committed a crime, it also does not exonerate him.” 

Mueller Reportthis link to the 18 page summary Mueller intended for the public to see.


Spouse Affects Success

I’ve been thinking about what a friend from long ago, who renewed our contact in recent years, wrote me after reflecting on life.  The friend stated, “It must be the person you choose to marry can hinder or help your success in life.”   This was said within the context of comparing their present standard of living in old age with that of another with whom they had been on a par from childhood.    Both were in long term monogamous marriages though only one’s spouse is still living. 

This research study by Solomon and Jackson in PsychologicalScience indicates a spouse’s personality does influence occupational success and “important aspects of one’s professional life.” 

I think the person we marry can have a profound effect on an individual’s “success” in life, but many other factors can matter, too, I believe.   How success is defined has some bearing as do the criteria we apply.  I think in this instance my friend was referring to primarily financial factors, perhaps questioning not being in a more lucrative position these later years than might have been desired. 

My experience is that my career work goals were altered in adjusting to those of my spouse, when major distant geographical moves were required just as I had accepted a position in a long-desired organization.    Though I had to give up that position, I determined after time passed and a couple moves that it was best to change to a different profession but stayed in the communication-related field.   Actually, despite significant investment, I likely benefited in the long run from making this change.   

On the other hand, in this new career to me, a variety of family matters and spousal effects limited my having the flexibility to assume work-related responsibilities which would have allowed me to progress to higher level positions and salary.  I have no regrets about all these  choices I made as they were a matter of my adapting to accommodate factors I considered to be of primary importance in my life, so in that sense proved to be successful. 

I know of other couples whose path was different.  In one instance, both parents were able to maximize their career goals by being able to accept only positions in the same geographical area, as they moved from coast to coast, that would enhance the career of each -- with one even writing an academic book accepted for publication. 

Another childless couple accepted living in different locations, so were separated from one another for a period of years, but they got together regularly during that time as they each pursued the avenues their career goals prescribed to achieve their desired success. 

Seems to me ageism and forced early retirement can adversely affect some attempting to prepare for a comfortable older-years life.    Numerous other unexpected situations impacting each spouse and any children can develop such as illness, family member issues, divorce to name a few.
  
What are your thoughts about a spouse/partner hindering or helping achieve your view of success for a desired comfortable older age life?