365 Promises and Prayers, Promise 164.

How would I feel, is suddenly I woke up and could not walk, could not stand at all without a walker? I wrote these words to start a post Nov 18, 2025, 

And Never touched it until a month later  Dec 13th, 2025 , I added this list of thoughts.

Bob stopped walking in March of 2025. I made A list of what I would not be able to do,  if suddenly I could not walk.

The list came to mind because I prayed ever day over and over for God to help me SEE Bob, to understand what was happening to him was worse than what I was living each day. I was angry, hurt, stressed and feeling hopeless it would ever get better. 

If I could not Walk, I would have to ask for any and all things.

I'm thirsty, would you bring me water?

I am hungry, could you bring me a snack? or fix my breakfast

Please bring me a cup of coffee. Could I have a 2nd cup?

Now I need to potty, please help me out of bed and on the bedside commode.

I dropped the remote and can't reach it,

Would you bring me my laptop?

I need my iPad, I want to draw.

Please put the wheel chair by the bed so I can get in it and go pay bills on the desktop

I need to wash my hair, and shower, will you help me?

I need a lozenge my throat is sore and dry

I spilled my soda on my shirt, will you bring me a dry shirt?

I am to hot, would you turn on the AC, open the windows?

I am cold, would you turn on the heat? close the windows?

The above sat in my draft for another 3 months and on Friday 2/28/2026 I wrote these words, after reading a page in my book 

I learned this verse as a very young child, Matthew 7:12: "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets."

I must do to others what I  want them  to  do to me!

I.Need.To.Do.The.Right.Thing.

if I could not walk, How Would I feel and act? 

And now, this week I am going to finish this post, that has been in drafts for 6 months and 3 tries to finish it, in drafts since Nov. 18, 2025.

I prayed for months, daily, many times daily for God to help me See Bob through Gods eyes. 

This is what happened. I was in the kitchen fixing lunch and I saw this

Looking at him asleep and vulnerable like this, I SAW Bob, really saw how he feels and SEEING Bob and how he felt, tears running down my face, I grabbed the cell phone and this photo and reading the book,  stopped my crying, Stopped my anger and stopped the feelings of thinking I wanted to bolt from the house and never return.

When I changed, Bob and Beau also changed, the less anger I felt, the better they both did. The rage at life of caring for my spouse, like he was a child, was less every day. I also took advice of blog friends and finally listened to my Doctor and took a Lexapro and that has allowed me to live a good life, to live with life as is,

while Doing.The.Right.Thing.  Is life perfect? No, but it is a lot better and I have changed causing the two in my life to change with me. Yes, I still get angry and sometimes MEAN, but it is not normal any more.

I Do The Right Thing.. I have accepted life as it is. You can stop here if you made it this far. The story is finally told. I am posting the page which slapped me upside the head months ago. I scanned it with my phone, it might not be clear.

short version of page is this. If you want to make the world a better place, especially you own home life, practice the golden rule. TREAT Other People the way YOU want to be treated, no matter how they threat YOU.

Be kind to others, especially the ones that are not kind to you. It is easy to be kind to nice people, not so easy when they are not. this takes practice.

It has changed my life to a better home life as caregiver. This also will work for those that are being cared for. 

Joining Yam for FFF, Final Friday Feature.. 

Missy and Mister Duck Update

 

Since the last update on MissyMister 6 days ago, Missy and Mister our resident Mottled Ducks, disappeared for 48 hours and I thought she was somewhere sitting on eggs, since she appeared to be in broody setting mode, the day before, spending 5 hours hiding in the grass the day before they vanishes.

On June 16, they appeared and have now been HOME for 48 hours. The above photos taken yesterday, June 17, she spent most of the day in that tall grass. Mister came and went. There is nothing in the grass but grass and duck. She is in setting mode but has no eggs. Fine with me, the ducklings would not survive, because they are favorites of raccoons and we have three in the yard next door, sometimes in our yard.

I have said before, I don't feed them, we have plenty growing for them to eat. But unable to leave the yard, I feared they would not have enough and this morning, on our walk, I saw many weeds next door that they love. 

I picked the seeds off the grass that has gone to seed, they love it, and put a few stalks and one flower in a bowl, you can see it in the first photo today.

I was over joyed when Missy was first at the seed dish, and Mister quickly followed. They would pick a seed, dip in the water pan, go back for another and each ate 4 times. per the internet, it says to remove the pan after 15 minutes from the time they stop eating. I place all the ones I cut in a glass jar with lid, and we will see how this goes.. Yesterday they disappeared and I found them behind the rain barrel eating the tips off my aloe plant, almost all the tips are gone. 

The flowers are safe, they are Indian Blanket wild flowers.

Lest you think I think of nothing but ducks, 😏😏😃 Update on the Humans and Canine, is the same old same old which is a good thing. 

Ducks, Crows and Woodpeckers

I laughed out loud when a  7 inch crow slid down the aluminum pool ladder railing and hopped off onto the lip of the pool

Hearing a weird noise outside the bedroom window I found a very young tiny female downy pecking on a living tree, the weird sound was it is not a tree they peck on, it is green and  soft, not hard and rotted.. Totally different Sound

Found this little one on a Blog HERE

I saw a sweet, gentle Mourning Dove attack a blue jay and a Male Mocking Bird attack a fish crow. 

I laughed out loud as I walked Beau. The silly loud mocking bird sitting on the top of the street light singing  about 20 songs. Over and Over.

I watched Daddy Dove teaching baby dove to eat from the ground and practice flying. Once Daddy Dove was on the roof, ON GUARD, the nest in outside our gate in a stump with tall grass. I waved at him and HE DID A DOUBLE TAKE. He really did.  June 13 I saw the baby on the ground and Beau walking that way and the baby lifted up to the roof with no problem. I guess training is over now.

Yes, Missy and Mister are still here. They have been here 9 weeks now.

She dropped 2 eggs on the pool lip.

Research found, she is a juvenile and probably not aware of what to do with the eggs yet. They are called OOPS eggs. She is supposed to make a nest, and deposit them but so far has not built a nest. Yam says duck eggs taste better than chicken, but I can't eat my grand ducks, ha ha People do raise ducks for the eggs.

I found Mottled Ducks are protected species in Florida because they are native ducks to Florida. We are not allowed to touch or move or destroy a nest. If there is a problem we call Fish and Wildlife.

It is OK to toss eggs found on a pool deck in the trash, because they will not hatch unless she sits on them in a nest. She will not move this egg, but does move with her beak if she has eggs in the nest.

They have plenty of food, the above weeds are growing in 2 pots that I planted grass in for Beau to eat. The grass went to seed and I watched her strip the grass seeds off two blades of grass gone to seed. the grass looks like the front weed, and the two back weeds the seeds have been eaten, and the dirt you see, picked up by beaks, dipped in their water bowl and they swallow the mud to process the seeds in their gizzards.

Missy, the one on the left below, hat bonded with me. She came to the door and called me by making chirping and  funny sounds and when I   came to the door and go out, she walked beside me making the noise, wagging her tail and bobbing her head. I am love by ducks and love the ducks.

I have turned into a bird watcher. Thank you David G.

for those interested this is from AI on affection. 

Physical Signs of Affection

Excited Head Bobbing: Mottled ducks will bob their necks up and down rapidly when they are happy to see a trusted human. This is an acknowledgment of a positive social bond.

Gentle Nibbling and Dabbing: They will use their bills to softly nibble at your hands, clothes, or shoes. This behavior simulates the natural mutual preening that closely bonded ducks perform within their flock.

Shadowing and Following: An affectionate or imprinted mottled duck will follow you closely around the yard, viewing you as the leader or a safe member of their flock.Tail Wagging: Similar to dogs, ducks will rapidly wag their tail feathers side to side when they feel content and relaxed in your presence.