hi all.
This is kind of an embarrassing question. I'm twenty years old; I lost my virginity to my now-ex boyfriend when I was seventeen. Now I'm dating someone else, and we've been together (and having sex) for about a year and a half. For a while we were using condoms, but last December I decided to go on the pill.

Now here's the question... how do you guys handle "cleaning up" after he comes? When we were using condoms we didn't have any problem because he gets up and carefully puts it in a tissue and throws it away. But now that I'm on the pill, he comes inside me, and I have to tilt myself at this really awkward angle while he pulls out, and I have to lay there on my back with my legs in the air like a dead bug or something -- SO AWKWARD AND EMBARRASSING! -- to avoid dripping semen on his sheets until he runs to the bathroom and back with a wad of toilet paper. And then I hold it there in between my legs and waddle over to the bathroom to let it drip into the toilet. Kind of kills the mood, and makes me feel incredibly un-sexy. Any suggestions?

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One Night Stand
I had my first one-night-stand last night.

I was drunk (I know, drinking and sex don't mix!) and the guy didn't wear a condom. I was however, coherent enough to push him out of me after every few thrusts, and I'm 99.9% sure that he didn't ejaculate. And for the record, I know that I wasn't being the least bit smart.

What are the odds of contracting HIV/STDs from such an encounter? When is the soonest they can be detected so I can go get tested?

Thanks!!

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STDs
Hi i'm new here.

I'd just like to ask a question. I know that STDs are spread by sexual contact (through fluid exchange). If that is the case, can a person that has not had sex nor hany sexual contact with others, be able to carry an STD?

Both my boyfriend and I have no history of sexual contact with other people. I'd just like to know how STDs play a role in our relationship if we chose to have sex.

Thanks a-many for any help!

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If someone has a cyst (not sure if i spelled that right)...but could it be contagious?

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sexual performance axiety?
Hey all, I got a problem that maybe I shouldn't even be worrying about, but I wanted to see if I could get any advice &/or constructive criticism, etc, cause this is my first time writing in one of these message boards....When it comes to how my girlfriend and I have sex, usually it's pretty good, we both get turned on quite well, the foreplay is great, and the actual full-on sex works, sometimes very well (the longest has been over 20 minutes, sometimes the stamina just clicks)...But then there are times, maybe one out of every three or four times, where I can't maintain an erection. And I don't know what's wrong with me not too. I might find it somewhat normal or just something I'd have to deal with if I was in my 40's, but I'm 21, and it baffles me as to how this could happen. And I don't think it's necessarily something conscious on my part- maybe it is, I don't know. I very often get turned on by my girlfriend, and she does a great job, but then sometimes it just doesn't rise to the occassion, if you'll forgive the pun...I've thought about what it could be, and my gf said it could be just sexual performance anxiety, whatever that is...like if maybe my mind is just elsewhere for some reason or another, but I also wondered if for example, my diet might have something to do with it (I remember in that Super Size Me film the guy just totally lost his sex drive in the midst of his McDonalds binding). Not that it's a pattern that I can totally pinpoint, but like one night, for example, when this situation happened, for dinner I had this greasy kind of White Castle meal. Does diet have something to do with what happens in the sack, so to speak, cause in general my diet is not very healthy now, maybe more vegetables and fruits? Or is it something else psychologically that I may or may not be able to control? I just always feel disappointed with myself, like I may be able to get something going for a couple of minutes, I start having sex, and then it just goes downhill and nothing happens for another half hour or something. And even though my gf is supportive and isn't offended or anything, and is just happy anytime the sex is good and well and is patient, I think to myself 'you're only 21, and you can't keep it together during sex!' Or is it maybe just a simple issue of more foreplay? I hope this isn't too complicated a question, I'm just slight freaked about this...

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Premature ejaculation
Hey, my name is Havana and I am 18, currently with the guy whom I am engaged to and with whom I gave my virginity to just a month ago. Before that, we did EVERYTHING except penetration, which we found ironically humorous; ice, light bondage, spanking, fingering, oral, 69, we did it all. One night, we slinked up into his room and well, I was finally ready to let him inside me and well, since then, I have been crazy addicted to the feeling of his cock inside me. <3

But the weird thing is that he ejaculates way too early. And he says that this has never happened with any of his other girlfriends. Sometimes, it leaves me a bit frustrated-- not at him, but it makes me easily aggravated for the rest of the day. It lowers his self-esteem and I have been trying to console him, telling him that it's okay and everything but I just wish that we could be that close to each other longer. He feels the same way and we've tried some things to remedy this, but nothing has really helped. Any advice, guys?

Current Mood: hopeful

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So, what are some sure-fire ways for you to get your guy to orgasm?
He's my first, and he's only been with one other girl. So I'm not that well versed on all the tricks.
I've only gotten him to cum twice with my hand (which makes me feel like crap - I'd love to be able to do that for him).
With my mouth I'm most successful - I can get him to cum most of the time.
And as far as the actual sex act... Maybe 3/4 of the time.
I'd really appreciate any advise you can give me at all. I'd love to be able to do this for him more often. He has never complained about it, but I pick up that he also wishes he could have that release.

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warts...
so my bf just went to the dr, and he has warts. he cought them pretty early, and got medicen for it. but i was just wondering what the chances are that i might have them now. and if we do it, should he always wear a condom? like for ever? or is it possible that with the meds it will go away and wont come back. im gonna go to the dr my next day off, so any advice to calm me down till then, and any info you might have about warts, would be greatly appreciated!
thanks,
shannon

Current Mood: worried

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So, Jay and I have been fooling around (hand jobs and oral sex mainly) for months and months now. We actually had sex around the middle of May, and since then we've been a combo of sex and fooling around.
Now, he used to love the way I smelled and tasted, and I recently found out that there are only a few days out of the month that he still feels that way. He has always not liked how I smelled/tasted during that week or so of period before/during/after days, but it used to be that for three weeks he would love fingering me or eating me out, and then that one week would be "his week." Not that I didn't do stuff for him during those other weeks, but that week would be devoted solely to him.
...But anyway.
I'm curious as to what could change my scent and smell so drastically that he didn't like it much anymore. The only thing I can think of is that this all started around the time we started having sex. Could us becoming sexually active change the way I smell and taste? I have tried eating more fruits and stuff (because I've heard that it cam help with that) but I don't know of a major change in my diet that would have caused the change in the first place!
I just want to know why my body decided to go and change without consulting me first. lol.

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I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for almost two months now.
About a month ago, I quiefed for the first time, but it was only once and it wasn't a big deal.
However.
On Saturday we had sex for the first time in two or three weeks and I was quiefing like mad! It was so embarrassing and I have no idea why I was doing it so much.
I know that it is caused by air being pushed in and out of the vagina, and I know that its not a bad thing - just embarrassing. But I guess I'm just wondering why it was happening so much. Could it have been because it was a few weeks since the last time we had sex? And also, I was wondering if there was any way to prevent it (for future reference).
Thanks so much

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hello all. im not really sure what my question is...im a virgin who is new to masterbation. i tired before and the touch of my hand didnt do anything for me so i lost interest. i reciently got up the courage to go to an adult toy store and bought a vibrator and id just like to say whoa. last night i found this spot on the clit that is just crazy. like my knees become magentic together, my leg and stomach muscules tighten and it feels like my whole body is being eltirculed (dont worry, the vibrator is batteri opperated) my body gets so tense that i want to explode. but as soon as i move it away, and take a few breathes, the feeling is basically gone. whats going on i guess is my question...

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Hey guys..Ihave a question.

I just lost my virginity last night..well, technically this morning (at about 1:30) and today, my vaginal area kinda burns, especially when I pee, and my stomach hurts, I feel like I am going to throw up and I have a weird pain in my stomach as well. Is all this normal, or what does it mean? We did use a condom..

Thanks so much!
<3 Liz

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question
I have a question for all of you. I know that this may seem a bit sad to the majority of you, but I am 20 and i am proudly still a virgin. I have been seeing this girl for the better part of two years now. She is 19 and also a virgin. We have been messing around for a while basically doing everything but actually having sex. I will perform oral on her but she won't me. I really am ready to take the relationship to the next level. I have talked to her about a few times and she always says that she is waiting until she is married. One night when we were drunk she kinda let it slip out that she doesn't want to have sex because she is afraid of sex. Now I really do love her, but I feel that I am really ready to do this with her. It is kind of bothering me that she doens't want to. I respect her wishes, but everything that we do together, I am on the giving end. She will "Lend me a hand" every now and then but she isn't good at it. Is there anything else that I can really do or say to her to at least get her to consider changing her mind. I have tried to comfort her and really talk about it, but she always seems uneasy. I appreciate any feed back.

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newbie...

Hi,
    My name is Buddy. I'm 17. I've only been sexually active for a little over a year and with the same person. I was just wondering if the majority of girls like to have clitoral stimulation during sex? Or do most just have sex? It would come to me that they would like the extra stimulation, because i'm sure that the in and out motion isn't enough to cause an orgasm, atleast not with my partner. I found that it works when you get really close and and rub pubic bones thats a bit stimulating. and for me if a bit romantic because I feel closer to her.
I have a question about anal but I'll put it under the cut because I tend to ramble.

 

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kind of off the topic..
okay guys, i really need your help & advice.
im a 19 year old girl, who hasnt had sex or any sexual relationships since early February.
About 4 days ago, i was in the shower shaving the hair down there all off with a cheap plastic razor. These kinds of razors make me break out anytime or anyplace i use them,
but anyways the next day this bump appeared on my clit that is about the size of a pimple and looks just like an ingrown hair, but it feels like a big hard bump when you push it and it hurts like all hell :[. I dont know if this is just a really bad ingrown hair or.. ?
nothing is leaking out of it or anything..just hurts :[.
should be shared? what do you guys think it is?
please help me :[

Current Mood: scared

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I have never had an orgasm. I'm 18 years old, had sex with dozens of people with a variety of genders and techniques, and have still failed to ever have an orgasm. I've never had an orgasm from use of vibrators, other toys, from anal, vaginal, oral sex or stimulation or masturbation. I *enjoy* sex, I suppose. I don't hate it, that's for sure. But I never have orgasmed. I feel weird bringing this up with any of my partners. I have before, and it's just been an awkward conversation, so I don't anymore. I thought it was perhaps because I hadn't gotten used to any of my partners, but after a summer having sex with the same person every day, multiple times a day, that's not it. Could there be something wrong with me?

Thanks.

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hey...I just found this and I was hoping you guys could help me. ok...so. maybe I'm just freaking out because I have no other way of explaining it, but is this possible:

me and my long-time boyfriend have decided not to have sex until we're both sure we're ready. (possibly not even until marriage), however...we mess around a lot. I was wondering, is it possible to get pregnant without actualllly having sex? like...let's say if you gave him head and he came into a tissue and maybe it got on his hands and then he fingered you without meaning to do anything bad...?
right now I'm a little lateon my period, my breasts hurt and I have to use the bathroom nonstop. Also, I now am having trouble sleeping and even when I get sleep I feel very tired. Any ideas?



question 2:
I know that everyone has a scent down below, but is it possible to somehow make it smell different? For guys, drinking pinapple juice for a long period of time makes the semen taste different, soooo I thought maybe a girl could try something like that for scent?

Thanks!

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when will the good feelings come?
I have recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend. I have quickly gotten over the pain thing. But im still waiting to get some good feelings. We had one time were it felt really good, and I almost had this feeling of wanting to scream for no reason. But besides that time, things havent been all that sensational. We've had sex like 8 times in the last two and a half days. And pointers on how to make it feel better?
Thanks

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Sex Project
WANT TO TEACH YOUTH ABOUT SEX? WANT TO HELP THEM LEARN WHAT THEY SHOULD BE LEARNING IN SCHOOL? THEN TELL ME YOUR STORY!

My name is Jazmyne. I'm a senior in college and I'm doing an internship project for my Women’s Studies degree. Basically for my project, which is called Sex in Perspective, I will be collecting stories. These stories will be about the broad subject of “sex”. This will include basically everything that is part of the sexual being- sexuality, gender, the body, etc. (If you're unsure of acceptable stories, see my Feb 3 post) I will be combining these stories into a pamphlet/packet, which will then be distributed to high schools and organizations around the country. Through these stories, I will be educating today’s youth about safe sex by openly speaking about sex, gender, and sexuality. Basically, I want to help educate today's youth about having safe, healthy, happy sexual lives. And this project is just one way to achieve that.

All kinds of subjects and topics are needed. You decide what to share. I do understand that these stories are personal and I will do everything I can to protect your privacy. If you have a story that you would like to share (or know someone that would), please email me at sexinsight@yahoo.com (with "my story" in the subject line). If you would like to remain anonymous, please tell me so and I will not publish your name anywhere. For more info, you can also check out www.livejournal.com/users/sexperspective. Feel free to post on my journal or email me if you have any questions.

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Hey guys!

I've recently become sexually active. (I'd say I've done it around five times) That being said, I still experience pain and have yet to feel pleasure. Is this normal? Is there something wrong with me (or my partner)?

Thanks for the help!

xox

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